More than Dating, “It's Yoga for your Love Life!”

Tantra Speed Date San Francisco - 'More than Dating' It's Yoga for your Love Life!

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San Francisco Chronicle: "In the quest for love and connection in San Francisco's
notoriously challenging dating world, the ceremony is a bold and worthy risk."

NY Magazine's 'The Cut’: "I saw plenty of connections being made... men and women
gazing at each other, laughing, and thanking each other..."

Metro UK: "An opportunity to meet someone face-to-face in an honest environment without the
endless messaging, game-playing and faux confidence. Dating without the booze and the bullshit."

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'I met the love of my life through TSD and have been opened to the wonderful healing powers of Tantra. I was hesitant to go that night but I am SO glad I did!' - Catherine B. (Denver)
'The ceremony exceeded my expectations. I thoroughly enojyed myself and left feeling refreshed, inspired, and with the belief that there are great men among us who honor women and are willing to connect with us on a deeper level.' -Liz (Los Angeles)
'It’s ironic, because there’s nothing speedy about Tantra Speed Date. The facilitators had us engage in a slow, subtle way that left me feeling incredibly nourished. Not only did I meet a handful of wonderful connections, I left feeling full, connected and very happy I attended.' -Dave Booda (IntimacyFest Co-Founder)
'So grateful you had the vision and fortitude to create these events. It gives me hope for our societys evolution into more feeling, centered, connected beings.' -Rhianna G. (Boulder)
'I now feel that I have a much deeper understanding of what it means to be a man <br>in a relationship and how to make dating a beautiful experience.' -Justin M. (New York)
'I really felt like a goddess surrounded by strong, beautiful, empowered men.' -Brandi D. (San Diego)
'This event has changed the way I look at relationships. It is healing, deep and an energetic event. It teaches you and reminds you about the basics of any relationship' -Novlyn B. (London)
'Unquestionably the best dating event I have ever attended. It’s transformative.' -John N. (San Francisco)

TV Appearance:

Tantra Speed Date "More than Dating" featured on Colorado's Best with Joana Canals and Paula Haddock

Upcoming San Francisco Events:

  • Thu, Oct 25 - Tantra Speed Date - San Francisco (Ages 24-39)
  • Sat, Nov 10 - Tantra Speed Date - San Francisco
  • All Cities:

    (see all dates below)

    All Scheduled Dates:

  • Denver, CO - Fri, Oct 19
  • Boston, MA - Sat, Oct 20
  • San Francisco, CA - Thu, Oct 25 Ages 24-39
  • New York, NY - Thu, Oct 25
  • Chicago, IL - Fri, Oct 26
  • Denver, CO - Fri, Nov 9
  • New York, NY - Fri, Nov 9
  • Los Angeles, CA - Sat, Nov 10
  • San Francisco, CA - Sat, Nov 10
  • London, UK - Sat, Nov 17
  • Calgary, AB - Sat, Nov 17 Canada Debut!
  • New York, NY - Thu, Nov 29
  • Chicago, IL - Fri, Nov 30
  • San Diego, CA - Fri, Nov 30
  • Austin, TX - Fri, Nov 30
  • Boston, MA - Sat, Dec 1 Ages 28-42
  • Portland, OR - Sat, Dec 1 Portland Debut!
  • Denver, CO - Fri, Dec 7
  • Boulder, CO - Sat, Dec 8
  • New York, NY - Fri, Dec 14
  • Los Angeles, CA - Sat, Dec 15
  • London, UK - Sat, Dec 15
  • Santa Cruz, CA - Sun, Dec 16
  • Don't see your city?

    Tantra Speed Date "More than Dating" is expanding.
    Get in touch with us via email about bringing our event to you.

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    What is Tantra Speed Date "More than Dating"?

    image from Tantra Speed Date - Meet Mindful Singles
    image from Tantra Speed Date - Meet Mindful Singles
    image from Tantra Speed Date - Meet Mindful Singles

    Tantra Speed Date "More than Dating" is a fresh new take on dating that combines a relationship skills class with a Puja-style "speed date." Firstly, we help singles step into healthy relationship roles--something most of us were not taught in school. Then through fun connection exercises from various practices (such as Tantra, meditation, partner yoga, actor's improv, eye gazing, dance) you have an opportunity to practice getting to know someone in a more meaningful way.

    As a result people walk away with not only matches, but new skills, and potentially a new perspective on what relationships can be. Either way, people say it sure beats the traditional ways of meeting people!

    Our facilitators are trained to create a safe and fun atmosphere which supports daters in stepping into their best, most authentic selves. And what better way to meet a mate? This is why we believe attendees can't stop raving about it!

    Start your next relationship with your best foot forward.
    Choose your city (above) for more information and upcoming event dates!

    Frequently Asked Questions

    • What is Tantra Yoga?
      Well, for starters, it's not what you saw in the movie American Pie! Tantra is thousands of years old and has become a buzzword, which unfortunately has some misleading definitions. Translated from Sanskrit, it means "weaving," which we have come to understand as oneness. Bringing oneness to yourself and consciousness to what you do. The exercises involving breathing and meditation that are a part of Tantra are designed to bring you into a state of being more present. And who doesn't want to be more present, right?
    • What is a Puja?
      A Puja is an intentional ceremony. Translated from Sanskrit it means reverence, honor, an offering. It is a ritual designed to open our hearts and allow us to see the inner beauty within ourselves and all beings. It invites us into the elegant dance of masculine and feminine in a warm space of oneness and connection--what a great way to start your first date!
    • What does it look like?
      Participants form two circles facing each other. The men form the outside circle and the women form the inside, with each woman facing a man. Each pair then share a meaningful exchange through a directed exercise (a Puja "station"), which can be for a few seconds or a few minutes. Then they put their hands in Namaste, thank each other and--like a speed date--rotate to the next person. The ceremony ends when everyone has rotated full circle.
    • What kinds of exercises are there?
      The exercises are non-romantic, based in basic human connection: verbal exercises, light partner yoga, dance, breathing and meditation, eye-gazing, conscious touch (holding hands, hands on heart)... things that go a bit beyond the obligatory "what do you do/where are you from." And you are always invited to participate however you choose.

      What's unique is that each exercise has a kernel of positive relating skills. So you're practicing healthy relationship skills while you're having fun!
    • What if I don't want to do an exercise?
      Thanks for asking! We take consent very seriously, and have a zero tolerance policy for any inappropriate behaviorwhich thankfully we have never needed to enforce. While the exercises are straightforward and fun, you are always 100% at choice for how you wish to participate. Just like in yoga when you find a pose you're not comfortable with, you have the option to modify, or completely opt out of any exercise. Everyone is encouraged to participate at their own comfort level, and our facilitators go over what that looks like at each event, so everyone is clear before we begin.
    • So how is this a dating event?
      What makes this a "date" is that you get to choose who you enjoyed interacting with, and we'll put you in touch after the event. We like to let the women choose. The women will get to sense each man's personality and presence and decide who they may want to get to know better. Men will be instructed on how to be grounded and open-hearted so they can be felt. We find when we trust the wisdom of the feminine somehow it all works out.
    • What is the schedule for each event?
      • Doors open at the published start time. That's when we check you in and give you your dating materials (everyone must check in to participate). You also receive a playing card for our IceBreaker game. You'll have until the ceremony begins to play the game.
      • 20 minutes after start time--we begin to take folks from the waiting list (subject to capacity and gender balance.)
      • 30 minutes after start time--the IceBreaker game concludes and we close the doors to begin the ceremony. Anyone that hasn't checked in before this time will not be able to participate. (See our late/cancellation policy below).
    • What should I wear?
      You'll want to look good, yet also be comfortable enough to stand, move, and sit cross-legged. There isn't a tremendous amount of movement, so we've had some folks show up after work in suits (and they've managed okay) but you want to be able to move comfortably. Don't worry about shoes, we'll take those off before we start.

      And remember, you're going on a date. So do make sure to groom yourself and have good hygiene as appropriate to interact with potential dates. Please not strong scents as some are sensitive to that.
    • Is there food or drink at the event?
      There is no food or drink provided at the event (unless it's a special occasion). It's a good idea to bring a bottle of water. You could bring a snack for before or after (note that some venues may not allow food). However, you will have only a short moment with each date, so you probably won't want to eat during the ceremony.
    • What is the gender balance at the event?
      We do our best to aim for an equal gender balance at each event. So far just about every event has been sold out, and since we have an equal number of tickets per gender, we've had a near-perfect gender balance at each event. (We also use door sales to balance out gender).
    • What is the average age range?
      Most of our events are open age range. So far it has managed to work out every time; there are always plenty of dates for everyone. On occasion we may have one or two stations with a wide age gap. But, interestingly enough, participants report that that works out too, sometimes in quite powerful ways. This is one of the reasons we refer to it as "More than Dating;" It seems that connection itself can be quite healing, sometimes especially when there isn't a romantic interest. However, if you're into numbers and absolutely must know, email us: let us know what gender and age range you want to meet and we'll give you some statistics on your event.
    • How many dates will I have?
      Up to 20 dates. Each event can accommodate approximately 40 participants, so assuming a perfect gender balance, everyone would have a maximum of 20 dates.
    • I saw the event posted without a lot of RSVPs. Will there be enough people?
      Not to worry! Just about every event so far has sold out, often with a waiting list. We do a great job getting the word out and therefore the event is posted in multiple places. And some forums simply get more traffic than others, so don't worry if you see less people RSVP in one place than another. We wouldn't proceed with an event if there weren't enough people to make it worthwhile for everyone.
    • Do I have to be single to attend?
      One would imagine! We realize there are many classifications of relationship status these days. So as long as you are available to meet a romantic partner, you are welcome to attend. If your situation makes it so you are not open to meeting someone (for instance, if you're in a monogamous relationship), then it would not be appropriate for you to attend.
    • Is there a Queer/LGBTQ Tantra Speed Date?
      Yes! While this iteration of Tantra Speed Date is geared towards men-seeking-women and women-seeking-men, we have started a queer version currently running in San Francisco, called Queer Tantra Circle
    • What is your cancellation/refund policy?
      We want you to have a great time at our event. However, life happens, and sometimes you can't make it. If you cancel 24 hours or more before the event you can get a full refund via EventBrite. If you cancel within 24 hours of event start time (or you are late and miss the ceremony start), we can move your ticket to the next event as a one-time courtesy, provided you give us email notice. If you miss the second event, then sadly your ticket becomes forfeit. Either way, make sure to notify us via email before the event starts, as we cannot offer any refunds or transfers after the event has started.
    • Can I give/re-sell my ticket to someone else?
      Tickets are non-transferable. Please do not sell your ticket to someone else; it confuses the system and people don't get their proper matches. You can request a refund or be moved to the next event (see above). However, in any case, you must let us know so we can open up your spot to someone else. No notice, no refund/transfer.
    • Can I sign up my friend?
      Absolutely! And thanks for sharing it with your friends! However, do be sure to fill out their name and their email address on the attendee form. Otherwise we will not be able to check them in properly, and they will not receive all the wonderful matches they'll make at the event. If we had a nickel for how many times your friends email us wondering where their matches went... well, you get the picture. So please. Do your friend a solid and fill in their proper details.
    • What is the Tantra Institute?
      The Tantra Institute's mission is to empower people to connect more consciously using the tools and teachings of (primarily) Tantra. We hold multiple events, such as our extremely popular Tantra Night! Monthly Event, and work with singles and couples to help them increase their capacity for intimacy, authenticity, and pleasure. All our events are listed on our website: http://tantrany.com/. Subscribe to be kept up to date with our latest offerings!
    • I've had an amazing time at your event, how do I learn more, I want more!
      Most people do! If you're in New York, come to our other events, such as Tantra Night!, visit us Facebook, or Subscribe to be kept up to date with our latest offerings!
    • More Questions?
      Contact us, we'll be happy to tell you more about this event or others.
    • What other events do you offer?
      Aside from Tantra Speed Date, we offer many workshops to help increase connection and knowledge of Tantra. While most events are in New York City, you can see a full comprehensive list on our website: TantraNY.com

    Press Inquiries

    For press inquiries, please email press@tantrany.com.

    Want more classes?

    For a listing of all Tantra Institute classes and workshops: tantrany.com

    What folks say about Tantra Speed Date "More than Dating"

    "Tantra Speed Date goes beyond simply finding a date; it teaches skills that not only create a safe container for intimacy, it also bridge the gender gap to foster feelings of trust and friendship between men and women." –Clark Wyche

    “Your event has woken up a deeper sense of belonging, inner curiosity and life-affirming openness. I am grateful that I attended, and for the safe space you have created for all of us. It was a truly special night, possibly the most meaningful I had in months.” —Christopher D.

    “My heart opened more and more throughout the event and I made connections not only with possible dates, but with people I’d like to be friends with” - Trinity O. (Denver, CO)

    Unquestionably the best dating event I have ever attended. The process supports everyone to open their hearts and connect in a uniquely deep and profound way.  It’s transformative. - John N.

    “Profound experience - this is what I have known existed and joyful to have found.” -Karen S. (California)

    “This event helped heal a lot of fear I had about the male figure. Guy ran such beautiful exercises. I felt myself beginning to heal.”

    "Not only did I meet amazing open-hearted people, I experienced genuine healing through the connection exercises. I feel more connected to my femininity and sense of masculinity, and more healed in my relationship with both." -Kasia K.

    “Guy is an amazing facilitator. This work is deep, fun, and a great service.” -Benjamin C.

    “It's very healing. You forget that this is a romantic intention. It's soulful.” -Michelle L.

    "This type of experience should be offered nationwide, to reduce peoples feelings of isolation and loneliness. If people had access to an experience like this on a weekly basis, the world would be a kinder and happier place"

    “A heart centered event and beautifully organized to open up in both giving and receiving love” -Rick C.

    “Incredible opportunity to fall into my feminine energy in a way I can’t usually experience!” -Genevieve

    “One of the most impactful experiences everyone should be a part of at least once. If not more!” -Lisa M., Massage Therapist (Colorado)

    “I was grateful that this wasn't incredibly awkward and was in fact mostly pleasant and fun.”

    “Incredible. Surprised me how connected and at ease I felt. Made friends instantly, which happens so rarely. It was impactful” -Boulder, CO

    “Leave your prejudices aside. this is about perhaps the only thing we all want: to truly communicate and connect with others in a meaningful way. Warning: there’s risk of getting addicted to it.”

    "I decided to participate in Tantra Speed Date out of curiosity and left feeling excited and rejuvenated. The experience not only proved to be great for the speed dating aspect (I met at least 3 amazing women) but also for healing and clarity -- I now feel that I have a much deeper understanding of what it means to be a man in a relationship and how to make dating a beautiful experience." - Justin M.

    "I admit that I came in with judgement but very quickly I released that and found such love and peace and most of all sincerity from the men here. I really felt like a goddess and surrounded by strong, beautiful, empowered men." - Brandi D.

    "Unlike other dating events, you will leave feeling you received a great number of gifts even if you leave without a match. This will change the way you think about relationships for good!"

    Words fail me. It just felt right!" -Matthew H.

    “This was excellent! Really want to know how to be this all the time.”

    “Great way to meet people who are in touch with themselves, and want deeper connections with others”

    “A beautifully held night of fun and connection. It took the angst and panic out of meeting new potential partners and just had fun connecting and healing.” -Hannah L.

    “Truly enjoyed bonding, more than just dating” -Marvin Q.

    “Way better option of meeting and connecting to people.” -Ralf P.

    “It's a beautiful healing experience of love”

    “Wonderful to feel a roomful of strangers come together and build a safe container where people were so comfortable sharing their vulnerability and offering each other comfort and security”

    “A great way to connect and meet new people in an awakened setting.”

    “Come for the connection, spiritual and sensual”

    “Definitely worth checking out”