Frequently Asked Questions

• What is Tantra, and why "Tantra" Speed Date?
  Forget those wild myths and blockbuster misunderstandings; Tantra is more about connection, fun, and being present than anything risqué. Imagine it as the art of "relationship yoga," blending age-old practices with a twist of joy and mindfulness. Through exercises like breathing, meditating, and maybe even a little dancing, you'll find yourself more in tune with those around you. It's like a social superpower for making genuine connections, and trust us, it's a blast! After all, we find this level of presence is exactly what's missing from most dating encounters today. Why just talk when you can laugh, connect, and explore together?
• What does this style of dating look like?
  Picture this: You'll form two fun-filled circles of fellow daters. The men make up the outer ring, and the women form the inner ring; so that you're paired off with a friendly face across from you. Together, you'll dive into engaging and heartfelt mini-dates (we call them 'dating stations') that last just long enough to spark a connection. After each experience, you'll bring your hands into a cheerful 'Namaste', share a quick thank you, and then--whoosh!--off to the next exciting meeting. Keep circling around, and by the end, you'll have met everyone.
• What kinds of exercises will I do?
  No clichéd icebreakers here! Our exercises are all about authentic human connection, not cheesy romance. We're talking engaging dialogue, light partner yoga, movement/dance, heartwarming eye-gazing, and even some gentle hand-holding. It's a delightful mix that goes beyond the mundane 'what's your job' chatter.
  
  The coolest part? Every exercise is wrapped around a positive relating skill. So, not only will you have a blast, you'll be building real relationship skills too! And remember consent, you're the boss of how you participate. It's all about fun and connection in a way that feels good for you.
• What if one of the exercises is not my cup of tea?
  Thanks for asking! While the exercises are straightforward and fun, you are always 100% at choice for how you wish to participate. If you find an exercise that doesn't work for you, then--just like in yoga--you have the option to modify, or completely opt out. Everyone is encouraged to participate at their own comfort level, and our facilitators do a fabulous job demonstrating what that looks like, so it feels good for everyone.
• So how does this all add up to dating?
  Great question! Think of it as a refreshing twist on the traditional dating scene. You'll get to interact, laugh, and connect with others, and then decide who you'd like to get to know better. We put a fun spin on things by letting the ladies take the lead in choosing; they'll place one of their beads in each man's pouch that they want to connect with. They'll get a feel for the guys' personalities and presence, while the men are guided on how to be grounded and open-hearted. Afterwards, either party can contact the other. It's all about letting connections unfold naturally.
• What is the schedule? How does the event unfold?
  • Doors Open: Right at the start time, we'll check you in, hand over your dating materials, and give you a playing card for a super fun Ice Breaker game. You've got until the stations begin to mix and mingle!
  • 20 minutes in: Time to let in folks from the waiting list, making sure everything's balanced and ready to roll.
  • 30 minutes in: Ice Breaker game wraps up, and the doors close. Now the real fun begins as we kick off the event. Be sure to check in before this time, or you'll miss out on all the excitement! (Running late or need to cancel? Check our policy below.)
  • End of the Night: You'll feel the warm glow of connection and may not want it to end. While we'll gently nudge you toward the door, it's common for guests to join together for dinner, continuing the connections and conversations. Who knows? Your night might just be getting started!
• What should I wear?
  Think comfort with a touch of your best self! You'll be sitting and also moving, so choose an outfit that lets you feel relaxed but still sharp. Just remember, it's a date, so grooming matters. And go easy on strong scents; some people are sensitive.
• Is there food or drink at the event?
  We usually don't serve food or drinks (unless it's a special event), so feel free to bring a water bottle. Snacks might be good for before or after, but check with the venue, as some don't allow food. As tempting as a quick bite during the event might be, you'll want all your attention on your dates. And remember, alcohol is a no-go, so please arrive with a clear and ready mind.
• How many dates will I have?
  Get ready for a lively evening with up to 20 opportunities to connect! Our events typically max out at around 40 singles. Assuming a balanced mix, you'll have the chance to spark a connection with up to 20 different people. And, we're all about quality not quantity. You'll find each moment meaningful as you dive into engaging exchanges with others who, just like you, are looking to explore connection and authenticity.
• What is the gender balance?
  We don't believe in leaving anyone out of the fun, so we do our best to aim for an equal gender balance. Of course, it isn't always 100% under our control--even our matchmaking powers have their limits. But so far, just about every event has been sold out. And since we have an equal number of tickets per gender, they've all had a solid mix of singles ready to mingle! (We also occasionally use door sales magic to balance the gender too.)
• What is the age range?
  Some events have a suggested age range (noted in the title and description) and some are open to all ages. Whether you're a little outside the range or just curious about meeting people within it, you're welcome here.
  
  Our most popular events are open to all ages, drawing a vibrant and diverse crowd. Singles 30-45 tend to be the largest group. Followed by folks 45+ and then 20s. And while age might be a curiosity, what truly sets our events apart is the connection experience.
  
  But here's the thing. It's more than just about the dates. And this is what makes Tantra Speed Date® unique. Singles everywhere rave about how the experience itself can be quite transformative, regardless of their matches. Why? Simply engaging consciously with other singles in a positive and structured way promotes more healthy relationships. And it just plain feels good to connect with real people. You likely have never experienced dating in such a fun and comfortable way. You'll gain confidence, pick up new skills, and will likely start to attract more quality people into your life. That's what our participants say over and over again!
• What if I don't match with anyone?
  As many of our attendees say, "I don't even care if I match with anyone, this was amazing!" That said, we geek out on data. Our statistics say there is a 94.05% chance you'll match with AT LEAST one person. But if for whatever reason the probability fails you, we've got you covered. Your next ticket will be free!
• I saw the event posted without a lot of RSVPs. Will there be enough people?
  Don't let low RSVPs in one spot fool you. Our events often sell out faster than you can say "Namaste," and often with a waiting list. We're keen to promote across various platforms, and they don't all show the same love. Rest assured, we make sure there's always a crowd worth your while. So come on down; your next amazing connection could be just one RSVP away!
• Do I have to be single to attend?
  Ah, the modern relationship landscape--a tapestry of statuses! While you don't need to be 'single' in the traditional sense, you do need to be in a space where romantic connections are possible. If you're monogamous or already committed and not open to new love, you may want to consider our couples events. But if you find your heart's door ajar, even just a smidge--or if you're teetering on the edge of 'ready to date'--this could be the perfect space to explore what's possible. Consider this your invitation to a playground of connection, perfect for testing the waters!
• Is this a heterosexual event and is there a Queer/LGBTQ Tantra Speed Date?
  Diversity is the spice of life, and we're cooking up all kinds of flavors! This classic version of Tantra Speed Date® is primarily designed for men-seeking-women and women-seeking-men. In this setup you'll find yourself in one of two gendered circles--one for men and one for women. You'll rotate through up to 20 dates with members of the opposite gender. But don't fret, fabulous queer friends! We also host Queer Tantra Speed Date events in select cities. So if you're looking for a rainbow connection, keep an eye on our website to see when we're bringing that magic to a city near you!
• What is your cancellation/refund policy?
  We get it--life's a whirlwind! If you find yourself having to back out, no worries. Here's the lowdown: cancel 24 hours or more ahead and you'll get a refund or transfer, no fuss. If you're within that 24-hour window, or fashionably late and miss the opening ceremony, shoot us an email and we'll graciously "speed date" your ticket to the next event as a one-time courtesy. So keep your plans as flexible as a yoga pose, and communicate with us before the event kicks off. No refunds or transfers after the chimes ring and the magic starts!
• Can I give/re-sell my ticket to someone else?
  Tickets are non-transferable. Please do not sell your ticket to someone else; it confuses the system and people don't get their proper matches. You can request a refund or be moved to the next event (see above). However, in any case, you must let us know so we can open up your spot to someone else. No notice, no refund/transfer.
• Can I sign up my friend?
  Absolutely! We often have Bring-A-Friend ticket discounts! So thanks for sharing Tantra Speed Date® with your friends! However, do be sure to fill out their name and their email address on the attendee form. Otherwise we will not be able to check them in properly, and they will not receive all the wonderful matches they'll make at the event. If we had a nickel for how many times your friends email us wondering where their matches went... well, you get the picture. So please. Do your friends a solid and fill in their proper details.
• What is the Tantra Institute?
  The Tantra Institute's mission is to be better lovers; to empower people to connect more consciously using the tools and teachings of (primarily) Tantra. We hold multiple events, and work with singles and couples to help them increase their capacity for intimacy, authenticity, and pleasure. All our events are listed on our website: https://www.tantrany.com/. Subscribe to be kept up to date with our latest offerings! (Make sure to select your city so we only send you events that are geographically relevant!)
• I had an amazing time, how do I learn more?
  Most people do! If you're in New York, come to our other events, visit us Facebook, or Subscribe to be kept up to date with our latest offerings!
• What other events do you offer?
  Aside from Tantra Speed Date, we offer workshops to help increase intimacy and connection for both singles and couples. You can learn about our other offerings on our website: www.TantraNY.com
• Why is this experience called 'More than Dating'?
  This event is more than just a speed date. It's about bringing more connection, and perhaps healing, to the masculine and feminine within us. That's the juicy part of a connection that makes relationships so fun. Men learn how to hold a grounded masculine space. And when that happens, women can relax into their feminine and not have to do or hold so much. This creates a new way of relating that is easeful and connected, and not something you can ever experience in a bar or on a dating app. We believe this is why people love it so much and why one participant said it will 'restore your hope in dating.'
• More Questions?
  Contact us, we'll be happy to tell you more about this event or others.

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